Naive Nancy’s Favorite Things #1 – Dreambrands Lubricant (Plus Giveaway!)

Welcome to a fun series I’d like to share with you, both literally and figuratively, Naive Nancy’s Favorite Things. 

For the first installment in this series, I want to share with you my favorite lube, Dreambrands The Natural Lubricant.

Dreambrands the natural lubricant

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Trial & Error – Sex Toys

not quite this wholesome

not quite this wholesome

I have some good friends that pride themselves on telling me like it is. I love them for that. And they not so gently told me when they thought I was becoming not so naive and that my blog name should maybe reflect that. It was at that time that you might have noticed my tagline shifted slightly. There you go blog readers, I let you in on a little secret. 🙂

Well, I’m here to argue that concept with them, and you I suppose. Let me tell you why I think I’m still very much naive and why this blog still relates to the woman/couple looking for honest talk from someone they can relate to . I’m going to let you in on another little secret. There’s been a sex toy review that has been sitting in my draft box for ages. AGES. It was started eight months ago and I’ve been dragging my feet on it. Not because I’m lazy, not because I have writer’s block. Because I don’t like the toy. That seems easy enough right? Just write a poor review. Well, it’s not that simple. I’ve always been here to talk about the things no one talks about, here’s another one. The reason I don’t like the toy has nothing to do with the toy, it’s me. I’ve come to discover I don’t like toys that vibrate internally in my vagina. So while you see good toy reviews and you see bad toy reviews, what happens when you haven’t learned your preferences enough to know what toys you do and don’t like yet. And how do you go about that process? Is there a checklist? Are there standard toys you should try and in a certain order? That’s what I ran across. Does it get much more naive than that? I bought a toy that had all the bells and whistles thinking I would like it only to find out it’s not my style at all. Now what do you do with it? And how do you convey that? I literally have a half written review sitting around along with a toy used twice. I feel like a perverted version of the Island of Misfit Toys. I have a box of misfit sex toys. Toys I bought before I realized what kind of toy I really preferred. So the true situation I present to you is two-fold. What is the process/is there a process to discovering what sex toys best suit you? And what do you with all the misfits?

Do you save a “special” act for special occasions?

With Valentine’s Day right around the corner, I thought we might revisit this conversation.

Naive Nancy

In honor of the upcoming commercial debacle known as Valentine’s Day, I thought this might be a good time to bring this out. Do you save a “special” sexual act for special occasions? I should probably preface this by saying, this in reference to a woman doing something she wouldn’t normally do because she doesn’t like it. But she still pulls this act out on special occasions and performs it. Now, before reading further, I need you to understand that my perspective is slightly skewed because in my house the full menu is available at all times. This idea confuses me on several levels. Is there something you really don’t like so much that you would relegate it to once or twice year? And even then on those few times are you so unsure of the solidity of your relationship that you would force yourself to do something you hated…

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Review: We-Vibe 4 Plus


We-Vibe was kind enough to send me not one but two great toys to review. As you’ve previously read I was sent the We-Vibe Tango, which I absolutely adore, and the We-Vibe 4 Plus. I was so excited to receive the We-Vibe 4 Plus because the first sex toy we ever purchased and I subsequently “reviewed” for this site was the We-Vibe 4. Continue reading

Happy Anniversary to Me!

That’s right, a year ago Naive Nancy launched her musings. Sometimes thoughtful, sometimes humorous, and oftentimes ridiculous. This has been such a revolutionary year for me as an individual and for The Mister and I as a couple and you’ve been here through it all.

You’ve been here with me as I’ve learned about sex toys. My first sex toy review was even hinted at in Naive Nancy’s inaugural post. Talk about coming full circle. One year later and I’ve been sent the next version of that sex toy, the We-Vibe 4 Plus, to review here for this blog.


We’ve talked about hot button topics as they’ve hit the “mainstream” media:  married sex, anal sexhow orgasms aren’t necessary for sexual satisfactionthe promotion of mothers as asexual beings.



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