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As I’ve progressed with my own sexuality into my 30s, I’m come to wonder if this is the natural order of events to be more comfortable in your sexuality as you age. So I’d like to discuss what I’ve seen to be the differences between sex in your 20s vs your 30s.
It’s all about over-eagerness. You’re so thrilled to be having sex, I believe it’s more about quantity than quality. I even talked about my own experiences with that here.
You’re still learning about yourself, therefore you’re not always sure about what you like, what you’re comfortable trying, and how far you’d like to go.
Sex is still fairly new to you, so the uncomfortable aspects of sex (fluids, noises, smells) are embarrassing to you and thereby limiting to your exploration.
You’re more comfortable with your body and don’t let it get in the way of sexual encounters.
You’ve learned more about who you are as a person and you’re not afraid to ask for what you want.
You’ve had enough sexual experience to get past the embarrassments. This tends to make you more open to trying new things.
Overall I feel like there’s a better acceptance of yourself as a 30-something and that leads to better sexual encounters.
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