That’s right, a year ago Naive Nancy launched her musings. Sometimes thoughtful, sometimes humorous, and oftentimes ridiculous. This has been such a revolutionary year for me as an individual and for The Mister and I as a couple and you’ve been here through it all.
You’ve been here with me as I’ve learned about sex toys. My first sex toy review was even hinted at in Naive Nancy’s inaugural post. Talk about coming full circle. One year later and I’ve been sent the next version of that sex toy, the We-Vibe 4 Plus, to review here for this blog.
We’ve talked about hot button topics as they’ve hit the “mainstream” media: married sex, anal sex, how orgasms aren’t necessary for sexual satisfaction, the promotion of mothers as asexual beings.
Never mind new year new you, how about new year new view. I know you’ve been wildly curious about our foray into the lifestyle and I’m constantly being requested to share more details. So for the new year, let me relate some of the common traits I’ve come to notice that as swingers, we all share.
Provocative Clothing – That doesn’t sound that abnormal right? What you’re missing is the fact that you’ll find swingers headed to a lifestyle party on a Sunday afternoon dressed like this…
no that’s not a hooker, she’s just headed to a party
Oh first dates. Everyone in the lifestyle has a different path to walk, but essentially in order to meet new people you’re going to have to go on a lot of first dates. Whether that’s meeting at a party, or for an intimate dinner and drinks setting, it’s still essentially the same thing. First dates. Lots of them. I know, you vanilla people thought you had the monopoly on the agony of first dates. Sorry. Continue reading
It’s kind of funny, but this post is prompted by two things, some really great first dates, and the recent printing of a traditional first date advice column. While we are by no means experts, through trial and error we have learned some valuable lessons from our “first dates” with new couples. And of course Naive Nancy is nothing if not very educational for all of you living vicariously through our exploits.
While yes, each couple you meet is different, you aren’t. The couple you is the constant factor in each and every first date. So even if every first date in theory may be entirely different, your responses, expectations and limits probably aren’t. So with that, let’s discuss Naive Nancy’s first date advice for couples in the lifestyle (yes I’m now saying lifestyle, not couples dating or swinging). Continue reading
While traversing this new land of couples dating, I’ve found myself in need of a few etiquette lessons. So I believe this will be a continuing theme on here as well.
Lessons in Etiquette 1: How to come back from the ledge without looking like a dick.
We’ve been successfully conversing, via email, with a particular couple. Verbally we hit it off. Pictures from the neck down, are okay, not bad, not our favorite. But the real kicker was when we received face pictures today. Suddenly I’m no longer interested. Sorry, I’m a visual person, it’s true. I’m not looking for another love of my life. I’m not polyamorous. Therefore I have to have an attraction to these people. And I don’t. So how do I extricate myself from this situation politely? Can we say awkward? Cause I’m feeling really awkward right now.
yeah, this won’t be happening
Why isn’t there a rule book for this shit? There are books for everything else on Earth, how about a Dating for Dummies – Swingers Guide. (yes I did use the word swingers, ugh) Maybe that’s what I’ll start writing next.
Romeo and I talked about this quite a bit. We hemmed, we hawed, and finally came up with a solution. It’s a bit of a cop out really, but I wasn’t trying to hurt anyone’s feelings and since I had unintentionally lead them on, I didn’t want to be a dick about it. So Romeo suggested, and I followed through with, telling them that Romeo had put a kabosh on the meeting, he was getting cold feet with the whole “next step” of actually meeting and we were going back to the drawing board to hash out our boundaries and expectations again. They took it surprisingly well, and left it open for us to communicate with them again in the future if we got back into it.
What do you think, did we do the “right” thing? Was there a “right” thing for us to do?