Happy Anniversary to Me!

That’s right, a year ago Naive Nancy launched her musings. Sometimes thoughtful, sometimes humorous, and oftentimes ridiculous. This has been such a revolutionary year for me as an individual and for The Mister and I as a couple and you’ve been here through it all.

You’ve been here with me as I’ve learned about sex toys. My first sex toy review was even hinted at in Naive Nancy’s inaugural post. Talk about coming full circle. One year later and I’ve been sent the next version of that sex toy, the We-Vibe 4 Plus, to review here for this blog.


We’ve talked about hot button topics as they’ve hit the “mainstream” media:  married sex, anal sexhow orgasms aren’t necessary for sexual satisfactionthe promotion of mothers as asexual beings.



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Trials & Tribulations of Dating

Oh first dates. Everyone in the lifestyle has a different path to walk, but essentially in order to meet new people you’re going to have to go on a lot of first dates. Whether that’s meeting at a party, or for an intimate dinner and drinks setting, it’s still essentially the same thing. First dates. Lots of them. I know, you vanilla people thought you had the monopoly on the agony of first dates. Sorry. Continue reading

Just Can’t Escape…Unconventional Foreplay

I would gladly clean the house with him!

I would gladly clean the house with him!

Sometimes, regardless of how often I like to pretend otherwise, Naive Nancy’s life does fall prey to the trappings of conventional motherhood and life in general. It’s not all fun and swinging games over here. So let me take a moment and describe how conventional motherhood and domesticity do not put a damper on our sex lives or sexy time. Instead I’d like to show you how to embrace life in all its normalness, and turn the mundane into the exciting.   Continue reading

How to Spice Things Up – Playing Games

Have you been anxiously awaiting another installment in the, How to Spice Things Up series? Previously we discussed mutual masturbation and erotic media.

So what happens when you and your partner are left alone in the evenings? Do you retreat to your respective seats and electronic devices only to spend the evening together and yet alone? Are you a TV couple, meaning that when the chores are done and the kids in bed you spend your time watching TV together. Or does one of you clean and prepare for the next day while the other plays video games?

If any of these sound like your relationship and you’re looking to get out of the rut and spend more quality time together, let’s discuss a new option. Playing games.

Playing games are a good way to bring you and your partner together in an exhilarating and stimulating manner. It is often been said that your brain is your largest sex organ, so if you get your brain working on something with your partner, isn’t that the best foreplay?

Can’t think of any games to play with your partner. Let me help you out a bit.

I'm sexy when I throw it

I’m sexy when I throw it

Romeo is a bit of an active/outdoor person, so we’ve taken to playing frisbee in the evenings now that the weather is nice. Neither one of us is particularly talented in sports, but frisbee we can handle. It gets us outside (Romeo says one point in its favor) and active (point two). But to really get his blood pumping I’ve taken it up a notch by playing half naked (game, set, match) :).

Sexy Uno

Let’s take one of your favorite games from childhood and make it dirty, Uno. There are two different ways we’ve played this one and made it more adult. First you can add a “strip” element to it, or really with any game that has multiple rounds and a specific winner/loser to each round. Whomever the loser is of the round has to remove an item of clothing. The ultimate loser of the game is the first one to be completely naked. But are you really losing?

The second way to play is with alcohol. The loser of the round has to take a shot. The only difference between this and the “strip” version is that it’s an arbitrary decision as to when the stop the game. Although drink enough and I’m sure you’ve forgotten all about winners/losers and have moved on to a sexier pasttime.

sexy twister

Our final suggestion is Twister. Do I really have to explain how Twister can be foreplay? If you don’t have this game in your house, get it now!

What “sexy” games have you been playing lately? I’d love to hear some new ideas.



Romeo O Romeo


In honor of the daily prompt, I thought I would take the time to tell you all about my Romeo.

What does it take to be the soul mate, one and only to Naive Nancy?

– when we buy a box of popsicles and he likes the grape ones and I like the cherry ones

– our height difference is such that he can sit or stand behind me and rest his chin on my head

– his hands are exactly the same size as my feet

– as much as we love all things sexual, we also are suckers for old fashioned games: Scrabble, Uno, Jenga, Twister, Monopoly

– we have a deep and abiding love for miniature golf and bowling

– he truly understands how to reach my heart – through my stomach! who needs flowers when you can get a sex sandwich, the world’s best drinking chocolate, or coffee on the weekends.

– for our 10th wedding anniversary, this man went entirely outside his comfort zone and planned a grand romantic gesture. If pushing your own boundaries for the sake of another isn’t love, I don’t know what is.

– but at the same time, it also says love when your man always gives up the cherry on top of his sundae because he knows you like it

– when he hangs up a rack for nail polish and then proceeds to fill it for you while you’re out with the girls

– when he cleans your car for you instead of getting on you about how messy it is because he knows that it is the result of transporting the children you made together. And it is his small way of helping when he can’t be there during the day.

– when he sits next to you while you’re blogging and puts together a dresser just so that you have more room for your excessive amount of socks and underwear (of course that’s not happening as we speak) 🙂

Naive Nancy is one lucky woman. How does your partner complete you?