Happy Anniversary to Me!

That’s right, a year ago Naive Nancy launched her musings. Sometimes thoughtful, sometimes humorous, and oftentimes ridiculous. This has been such a revolutionary year for me as an individual and for The Mister and I as a couple and you’ve been here through it all.

You’ve been here with me as I’ve learned about sex toys. My first sex toy review was even hinted at in Naive Nancy’s inaugural post. Talk about coming full circle. One year later and I’ve been sent the next version of that sex toy, the We-Vibe 4 Plus, to review here for this blog.


We’ve talked about hot button topics as they’ve hit the “mainstream” media:  married sex, anal sexhow orgasms aren’t necessary for sexual satisfactionthe promotion of mothers as asexual beings.



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Trials & Tribulations of Dating

Oh first dates. Everyone in the lifestyle has a different path to walk, but essentially in order to meet new people you’re going to have to go on a lot of first dates. Whether that’s meeting at a party, or for an intimate dinner and drinks setting, it’s still essentially the same thing. First dates. Lots of them. I know, you vanilla people thought you had the monopoly on the agony of first dates. Sorry. Continue reading

Dipping Our Toes Into the Scary….

No I do not suddenly have a foot fetish. Let’s just get that out of the way right now. I know what you were thinking.

We’ve recently dipped our toes in the waters of couples dating. Let me explain.

While discussing our fantasies and pushing our boundaries, we have found that both of us like the idea of voyeurism, exhibitionism and adding people to the mix. We’re really not sure how deep these fantasies run, are they purely exciting on a cerebral level, or would we actually like to try them. But at this point we’re interested enough to at least meet others with similar interests.

I have likened it to couples dating. We’d like to meet couples for dinner, drinks, conversation and maybe some flirting. Doesn’t that sound divine? At this point I think I’d be completely satisfied with just that. I mean, after all, I have no one to talk to in real life about all this sex stuff. Having someone to talk to in person would be quite the novelty.

Now, how do you go about meeting couples? Well, there are websites out there for that. Similar to match.com and the likes, but for couples in alternate lifestyles. I don’t know that I particularly like the label “alternate lifestyles,” so at least while you’re here with me, let’s ignore that.

So we’ve put ourselves on a dating website, we’ve gotten some interest, but now to actually pull the trigger and go through with it. To actually meet someone? That is the scary stuff. See, Romeo (at least that’s what the poll tells me I should call him) and I have been together for over a decade. We’ve been married for 10 years, but together, even longer than that. So it’s been a REALLY LONG TIME since I’ve had to meet someone new. And all that that entails. You know, nerves….worrying about my appearance, and mannerisms, etc. These are things I haven’t had to consider in forever.

This is just one of many things I love about long term relationships. Having everything, and I mean everything, out on the table and you still come back for more.

I yearn for the anonymity of Naive Nancy, but alas, if I wish to ever make real connections that cannot be. I think I’m going to have to put myself out there if I wish to see results.

Anyone have experience with this and can provide some insight? I’d love first hand advice and recommendations.